I get mail so often from people experiencing marriage problems and just want to give up on their marriage so easily. You may be one of them, thinking “When do I stop this horrible relationship, or what should I do?”
Often it is the decision to stay or give up your marriage depends on the your heart. If you disconnect yourself from your spouse and decide that things are over between the both of you, it will happen that way and the relationship will eventually break down into divorce.
However, there are some relationships that are better off ‘letting go’. Many people as when is it time to quit on the marriage and give up and get out of the marriage, you should notice these few pointers I’m about to share with you. You should definitely give up on your marriage if:
- You have to abandon your own goals
- Your relationship separates you and your friends and family
- You are tied down to your marriage and you can’t enjoy your own time
- It changes your principals and self belief
- You are suffering from abuse
- You are always troubled over your marriage problems
- You have no communication with your partner
These are few of the big pointers that your marriage is better of giving up. If you take all your time to think about your marital problems and forget about your own health, mentally or physically, you should definitely seek expert advice. Sometimes it is better to get someone else to tell you how much you are wasting your time and energy on a pointless relationship.
If you are the only one trying to save your marriage, it is also a sign that things will not do well. As I said before, it takes two for a marriage to work. You and your partner have to be proactive and work towards improving your relationship. At the end of the day, you can only control yourself and not your partner’s will.
For example, if you get married to a heavy smoker, you cannot stop them from smoking in a day. Same goes to an alcoholic. Things might go from bad to worse if your partner is involved in an affair. If you are involved in marriage abuse, you should definitely consider giving up on the marriage. If it happens once, it will happen again in the near future.
If you have tried every possible method, changing yourself and trying to make your relationship work but to no avail, then you have no more control over the situation. You might not know it but sometimes a simple word from your partner might change your whole relationship. Don’t give up on yourself in hope of changing for another person. Note that you should not play the waiting game as it may waste your lifetime doing so. Imagine yourself still waiting for the right words to come out from your partner after 10 years.
Remember that you have control over your own life. If you are in a marriage that does not give you happiness, you should start making a wiser choice for yourself. Although it will be a hard decision, you deserve an opportunity to choose the way you want to live.