You don’t need to make extreme changes in your own or spouse’s life to improve your marriage. These 5 effective tips are from marriage expert and author, Nancy Wasson. You will learn how to stay married with her advice on marriages or long term relationships. I highly recommend them as they include reasons on why you need to pursue your partner.
A small change in daily lifestyle will create a huge difference in the quality of a marriage. Thankfully, I’m ready to tell you this, so I looked up a number of great tips to help you figure out how to stay married forever.
Date Regularly
This is what most relationships lack most. It doesn’t matter who plans for the date, spending a good time together is one of the secrets to a long lasting relationship leading to staying married life.
A study shown that those who went on dates regularly (the average was six dates a month) were more likely to be satisfied with their marriage than those who spent less time together.
You should also put effort and schedule some time for both you and your spouse to enjoy time together. If you have children, you most likely have been neglecting this part because you might not want to leave them in someone’s care or embarrassed to leave them at home for some ‘reason’.
Though you may joke that you’re too old to go for dates but doing everything with the children and not spending quality time with your spouse is as good as avoiding sex and romance. It will not hurt to be frank with the kids and you will stay happily married in the long run.
Make time for vacations
No matter how well you might have treated your spouse (probably better than I did!) your number one worst enemy could be this reason. This has the potential to bring just about any marriage down, as almost 20% women said they had not been on a vacation for almost 6 years or more. They were reported to be more likely to stressed from their unhappy marriages. By just leaving home and doing things different from your usual lifestyle can be enough to re-start a stale relationship.
I was really wary of this and now I go on vacations (even a short one will do) yearly to get some fun, romance and relaxation. Sometimes we go camping at the state park! Just as the old saying goes, “All Work and No Play Makes Jack a Dull Boy”. I’m glad I realized soon enough!
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Respect each Other
Sometimes you leave a sigh with displeasure and even roll your eyes when your spouse talks to you. One thing many don’t notice is disrespect can do damage on your marriage. Bad attitutes such as rolling your eyes is most damaging and classic sign of disrespect.
This can increase chances of marriage ending in a divorce. Sometimes, non-verbal actions can cause more damage compared to those communicated verbally. So you have to be more aware of your behavior and don’t ask for honest feedback unless you’re ready to take it without being on the defensive side.
Be more self aware and you will definitely improve your relationship with your partner. I’m sure you don’t want to stay divorced forever!
Hug Each Other
It may sound simple but many couples don’t hug each other anymore after sometime in a marriage. Hugging is found to boost blood levels of oxytocin, a relaxing hormone linked to trust and closeness in partners.
Some couples think of “Hugging = Sex” in a marriage, I strongly suggest they start changing! Wives often try to avoid physical contact with their husband because they don’t want him to get aroused. This is as good as pulling away from closeness and connection with each other!
Luckily, now you know that initiating a hug will do you good. Just ask your partner to join you in light hugs each day and you will feel better afterwards!
Celebrate Special Days Together
You must celebrate days that are special to both of you. Record them on a your personal calendar and don’t forget it. Sometimes a belated surprise is better than having no celebration at all.
Some of the days you should be celebrating are days you met your spouse, your wedding day, your birthday and your partner’s birthday, Valentine’s day, New year’s day and many more. Choose something that brings a significant meaning for a celebration.
Many spouses complain that their partner never buys them a gift, and don’t celebrate any special days. It’s sad to hear this because it seems like a loss of opportunity to celebrate. Life is short and you are meant to treasure it with your beloved partner so take the opportunity to celebrate every special day you have been together!
Lastly I want to say that, no matter how much you read these tips, putting them into action is the only way to stay married with your partner. I hope you learned how to stay married happily and try to work hard on your marriage!
For more resources, I recommend checking out Save My Marriage Today. It can help your marital problems as it helped mine.
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Nice tips! In addition to your tip regarding respecting each other, you and your partner should respect each other’s communication style. All of us have different personalities which explain why arguments arise out of preference of communication styles. In order to avoid misunderstandings, discuss with your partner the communication style you prefer. This will help you move forward and grow as a couple.
Yes, nice tips! I would add a few more with: “A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage
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These are some great tips on how to keep a relationship alive. I really agree that planning vacation time together can help to save a marriage. Getting away from the everyday can be exciting and a welcome change for couples who have fallen into a rut. A vacation can help couples to overcome obstacles in their relationship by being in a non threatening environment. A vacation can also help to bring back the romance into a relationship, which is really important.