How To Stay Married Like I Did

by philiplandry

Hey Philip here,

Julie and I have been arguing over many things since we tied the knot and it came to the point where we just ignored and stopped talking to each other. As I mentioned, we had a discussion together on where things went wrong but she wasn’t ready for it yet. She couldn’t take it and went on being defensive for things we didn’t agree upon.

I tried to talk to her and took several measures to figure out how to stay married happily together. I suggested we separate for the time being, thinking that we would start to miss each other and get back together stronger. She agreed.

During that period, I desperately tried to figure out how to stay married. Marriage counseling, friends and family couldn’t help much. I resorted to seek for advice on the internet. I wasn’t necessarily looking for a course on how to save my marriage but that was when I came across Amy Waterman’s Save My Marriage Today e-course and book. To be totally honest, I was a bit hesitant to try it. You can read my review of it here.

I wasn’t the best computer man around so having to download a book and then taking a class online was slightly intimidating but I wanted to save my marriage with Julie. Let’s be honest, imagine how many infomercials and the likes appear on TV every night promising to do this or that, but you know it’s all a scam? Well, when I opened it, I knew that this was what I needed. I was truly impressed by Save My Marriage Today’s and I’ll tell you why.

It has 20 chapters and during the period we were separated, I read the book from cover to cover twice. The course allowed me to understand my mistakes in my relationship with my wife. If I were to ask my friends or family, the would have said nothing and I would never been able to see what I was doing to my wife. Also, I was hesitant to seek friends and family for advice because they can be a bit judgmental. That being said, the advice from Amy Waterman’s Save My Marriage Today book made more sense to me than listening to the marriage counselor.

This e-course also does a great job addressing the lack of physical intimacy in our relationship. Although a bit embarrassing to discuss our sexless marriage right here, it wasn’t as bad as I thought. Amy gave me many tips to add that extra level of intimacy into our relationship (which wasn’t there before!)

Well, every product has it’s own shortcomings and I’ll quickly tell you what I didn’t like!

  • Firstly, it was a lengthy book! It’s about 150+ pages and 35 exercise included with it. The language is very polished and it’s surprisingly easy to read. There are 6 bonus books included and I find “‘How to be Happy!” and “‘Seven Ways to Live Life to the Max” most enjoyable to read. Although it took lots of time to go through them, it was worth the read.
  • The ‘Love Bank‘ concept introduced by the book was not properly conveyed and this idea was originated from Dr Williard Haley’s “His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage” How To Stay Married Like I Did book. For those who are interested, this book explains the concept in a greater detail and I recommend you understand the concept because it’s very important!
  • Although there were many case studies included in the book, I felt the author could have included more to illustrate their key points. Nevertheless, the knowledge I gained was useful and everything worked out fine for me.

My Happy Ending!

Most importantly, this book has taught me how to handle not only my own faults but also my wife’s.

I learned what a relationship between married couples should be like and in hindsight, I truly believe that this guide is tailored for a wide variety of people having difficulties in their marriage (even for the divorced!). The information in this course is now the pillars of my own relationship with my wife and I recommend this course to anyone!

Now I realize begging, pleading, being desperate and volatile was one of the main reasons why it made me more unattractive and our relationship worse. The ‘New’ me created from the book is now very appealing to my wife. I’ve vowed to communicate openly to my wife and being happy with myself is a huge key to my marriage. The things I learned from the book have been put into good practice and the results are pretty convincing.

I believe if you work through this course like I did, you will not only be able to save your marriage but also rebuild the foundation for a better and stronger relationship with your partner. Sometimes I wonder if the hardships I endured was actually a blessing in disguise because with this book, I’ve created an even healthier relationship with my wife!

Click here to find out more about Save My Marriage Today by Amy Waterman.

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{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Claudia Kussano January 12, 2010 at 11:56 am

Good on you Phillip. I have marriage difficulty and i’m seeking marriage advice and came across your site. Sitting down reading this, I assume you had a similar situation as myself where you need to do something about your marriage. I find that i’m even close to a divorce and i really need help to turn the situation around. But honestly, can ’save my marriage today’ help me understand the situation and be in control of it? I need to know that before I get my hands on it so I thought i’d write to you first and understand what I expect to get out of this book.

Phillip Landry January 16, 2010 at 5:31 pm

Claudia, thanks and wishing you well. To make it short, the book gives you detailed, step by step plan to help win back your partner’s love without making any unnecessary actions. It’s a great course and you will definitely see positive improvement in your relationship. If you want to prevent ending up in divorce, suffering from infidelity or just don’t feel as close to your spouse as before, then Save My Marriage Today is a tool that you simply must have to improve the situation.

John January 17, 2010 at 9:28 pm

It seems my marriage hasn’t succeded. I kind of made my wife stop loving me, she started an affair. And – although I believe she is still the one – things have collapsed badly. So much stuff has been said and done, we may not be able to live on normally together.

I’ve decided to stay with my wife (or now rather ‘ex-wife’, actually) for our daughter’s sake. It doesn’t work out brilliantly – both my wife and me are tripping each other up – but we’re still trying.

I believe deep down that it is crucial for a kid to have both parents around unless it’s a real hell. But maybe it is now for my daughter, but we just can’t see it?

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