I struggled a lot in my marriage with my wife Julie, and many times I was left figuring out how to stay married together. As time went by, we weren’t the cute couple anymore as I had more responsibilities as the head of the family.
The marriage didn’t go very smooth as we argued over small things almost every day. We fought over minor issues and over time, we started to feel irritated at each other. I didn’t want that to happen but somehow we got tired of each other. At one point, we started avoiding each other stopped communicating.
It reached up to the point where she decided to sleep in separate rooms. We had a spare room as we had planned to have a children, so she slept in that room for almost many months. All I could think of was divorce and it was the best possible solution for both of us. Julie is a smart, educated, but stubborn woman.. and I still loved her very much.
What made if more difficult for me was that I was the only one trying to save our marriage. Julie didn’t try patching things up together because of her personality. She was either ignorant, in denial or just didn’t really care about our marriage.
I went for counseling alone and talked to my friends who were happy in their marriages and listened to their advice. One friend told me that I should open up more to her so I moved onto talking in depth about where things went wrong so this does not happen again.
It didn’t work at all and made things worse between the both of us. She had been comfortable with her life and didn’t thought much on how to stay happily married with me. As we talked and discussed more with each other over problems with our marriage, the more we blamed each other over everything.
Little to my knowledge, this was the Biggest Block to staying married with Julie as I’ve never actually started to look at the whole situation in another way.
I learnt from Amy Waterman’s Save My Marriage book which I bought online. I realized that talking to each other was absolutely important BUT not until you’re firmly on solid ground again. (You must make sure that you are ready for this discussion). Julie wasn’t ready and she was being too defensive for the whole honest discussion thing.
Fortunately, we are happy now and our unhappy marriage is a thing of the past. Read my next post to find out more about how I did it!.
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Thanks for your insight, I realize this too when I started talking to my wife. She started ignoring me, I think I should give her more time before I start a long discussion about our relationship. Thanks for the inspiration and I realize how much I still love her even though she gives me so much trouble every day when I return home from work. thanks and God bless Phillip.